Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to results. But sometimes the problem with thoughts is they don’t support the results we want. If I find myself anxious and in overwhelm, where does that come from? It comes from worrisome and fearful thinking. This, again, is the sentry mind thinking. It’s trying to protect me from some (at this point) imagined danger. Most of the things that the sentry mind is on guard against can’t really hurt us. We don’t worry about the saber toothed tiger around the bend. We worry about our jobs, our loved ones, and our…future.
The first step in any change is Awareness. Here’s a challenge. I want you to take a “trial offer”. You’ve probably done this before. It’s like on a commercial, try it for thirty days and if you’re not satisfied, we’ll refund your money. But there’s no refund here it’s an experiment. Sometimes it feels daunting when we try to consider making a decision that involves life long change. But thirty days? Piece of cake. And this is an excellent way of developing new and better habits.
For the next thirty days I want you to simply observe your mind and watch your thoughts. Try to notice your sentry mind in action. What are the qualities of your thoughts? Are they based in fear and obligation? Or are they based in joy and purpose? A mind based on joy and purpose is natural (and wonderful) but it takes work. A mind based on fear and obligation is normal but it tears you down. And it will drain the life out of you.
Like the previous exercise, commitment takes discipline. Never commit to anything that you are not going to do. Your word must be a law of the universe. The only way to lead a successful life is to have a truthful life. In many warrior traditions a person’s word was a life and death issue they would rather die than live a dishonorable life. You’ll find that if you don’t keep your word, not only will others not trust you, but you won’t trust yourself.
Once you say something you become a creator. And the more you say something and make it happen, the universe listens. The universe comes to “see” that when you say it, it happens and continues to make it happen. If you can say with confidence, “Everything I say, happens!”…this is an incredibly powerful state of mind. But start small. Don’t try to turn lead into gold right away. Start small, and be consistent. Commit slowly and complete fully.
What happens if you MUST break a commitment? Then really break it. Make that phone call or talk to the person in person. And ask permission to break the commitment. By the way, the most important commitments are the ones you make with yourself. You MUST keep your commitments to yourself.